Better Self-Talk for Erectile Dysfunction

Why Does Changing Self-Talk Help with ED? 

If you're like most guys, when you talk to yourself really harshly or negatively, your body reacts like it would if someone else was saying that stuff to you.  You tense up, you get anxious and your nervous system might go into that sympathetic fight or flight mode. When that happens, you lose your erection.

But don't just take it from me. Jim Loehr, a performance psychologist, who's coached everyone from Olympic gold medalists to Fortune 100 executives says: 

"I came to understand that the ultimate coach for all of us in life is that private voice.  And that private voice can be brutal, it can be a detriment to being the best you can be. The brain listens to everything you say"

Loehr would have his athletes wear microphones and articulate everything they said to themselves while competing at an event.  Then in playback, he'd pay particularly close attention to what they said to themselves if they made a mistake or lost.  What he found was that bad self talk led to bad performance.  

Self-esteem psychologist Nathaniel Branden always said that any time someone is fundamentally against themselves just watch the downstream symptoms arise.  He'd see people with all kinds of different issues - addictions, anxiety, depression - and Branden found that most of the time,  if he could help those people get on their own side, those symptoms would disappear on their own.

Have you ever heard of a three-legged race?  Like they used to have at county fairs or they had on special "field days" at school when I was a kid?  You'd take two people and tie the left ankle of one guy to the right ankle of another guy then they'd try to run a race that way.  Think of what it would be like to try to run in one of those races if your partner was just yelling at you and trying to punch you.  Probably not much fun.  And you probably wouldn't get very far.  In terms of the way some guys treat themselves when it comes to sex, that's kind of what they're doing.

And it's not just in sports or general psychology.  MOJO, the app for guys dealing with psychological ED devotes a whole section to helping guys deal with what they call their 'Inner Critic."

So if the first link in the ED chain is the internal dialog, great.  What can you do to change it?

Watch the video and find out!