Lock in Calm for Psychological ED

Why Relaxation is Key to Performance
When you’re anxious, your body goes into fight-or-flight mode. It redirects blood flow away from non-essential functions—you lose your erection. Relaxation is the antidote. So how can we help you relax?

Did you ever hear about the experiment Pavlov did with his dogs? Every time he gave them a steak he rang a bell. Pretty soon all he had to do was ring the bell and the dogs would salivate - even if there wasn't any steak around. Human brains can make associations like that in a similar way.

So today we're going to take advantage of your brain's Pavlov ability to make links so you can relax, get good erections and enjoy sex.

Step-by-Step Guide to Creating an Anchor for Relaxation

What's it like when you're calm?
How do you feel when you're really calm? How do you breathe? How do you hold your shoulders? How does your gut feel? If it helps, you can think of a time when you felt completely at ease—or you can imagine what it would be like to be in a place where you can feel completely calm. Sitting on a beach, or relaxing by a pool, meditating. Whatever comes to mind for you that feels really calming.
Immerse Yourself in the Feeling: Close your eyes and focus on every detail of that moment. What do you see? What sounds are in the background? What sensations do you feel? This step is key to fully engaging your mind and body in the experience.
Establish the Anchor:
While you’re fully immersed in that memory, when you're really enjoying that calm feeling, press your thumb and forefinger together. This simple physical action will become your anchor. Practice this daily for a week to strengthen the association.
Test Your Anchor:
After a few days, try pressing your thumb and forefinger together in a neutral setting. Do you feel calmer? If not, revisit your memory and reinforce the connection.

Section 3: Using the Anchor in Real-Life Situations
If you can, catch yourself just as you start to feel anxious - before it gets very strong. Then take a deep breath and press your thumb and forefinger together and allow your mind to shift to that peaceful place. As your mind goes to that peaceful place, your body will likely follow. The more you practice, the more effective it will become.

Anchoring relaxation is like a reset button for your mind and body. It’s easy to learn and can be really effective for solving psychological ED. Try it out. I hope it takes you one step closer to having a really healthy, happy fun sex life again.