How to Take the Pressure Off with a New Partner

Here's something that I've seen really help with guys when they're getting into new relationships.  It depends on the relationship and it's not going to work for everyone, but for some guys, I've seen this take a lot of the pressure off.  It's something simple you can say to a partner at some point before sex:

"Hey, I want you to know something.  When I have a one night stand or sleep with someone I'm not that into, I don't have any problem at all.  But sometimes if i really care about someone, I put a lot of pressure on myself and it can affect my performance.  So I just want you to know that if my performance is off at all, it just means that I'm really into this."

I've seen this work wonders in a few situations.  

It seems to open up a space for good conversation.  

It totally avoids the "Oh, is something wrong with me" trap on the partner's side.  

And more than anything, it creates a space for the guy where they've acknowledged the problem so it's feels much safer for them to have it.  When it feels safe to have, usually their body will relax and they'll have a better experience/better erections.




Stripping away performance stakes with the right words is a game-changer, and you can explore the specific tools I use to break underlying subconscious performance loops in my comprehensive resource on psychological ED treatments.